skeleslime-phantom

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Colton's really channeling Simon Pegg, but Veronica sees right through it.

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tubaterry

Saw an op-ed that was on the surface a complaint about kids not wanting to take on family heirlooms but read like an elegy to dying traditions. The hardest part was the anxiety without recognizing that they didn’t pave the way for the decisions they assumed their kids would make.

(This is written entirely within the dominant white/western culture - about traditions that have neglectful stewardship rather than those actively suppressed)

The anxiety makes sense. You’re seeing, too late to do anything about it, that there’s no foundation - no space - for the traditions you expected to pass on. Your kids _can’t_ take your mom’s fine china. So now instead of enjoying what you have you worry about its future.

I see a pattern in these op-eds though - a pattern in what’s left unsaid. There were responsibilities tied to these traditions. You collectively assumed they _would_ be passed along. So collectively, what did you do to ensure those traditions _could_ be passed along?

Op-eds never speak for everyone, but it’s worth acknowledging the pattern in what speech is deemed worth sharing widely.  And in this particular pattern, there’s an answer: that answer looks like “nothing.”

You want the china passed down but your kids have no room in their rentals. You want grandkids but your kids don’t have the financial stability. You want that cross-country RV neverending road trip but you’ve had decades of wanting lower taxes more than you wanted infrastructure.

The bleak outlook for traditions is a direct result of the unmaintained foundations for them. The second best time is always now - if it’s important enough to op-ed about, what are you willing to change to get it back? What will you give up or re-prioritize?

I kinda think that world-defining assumptions are always gonna break without maintenance. So rather than getting mad at whoever’s next for not carrying on the norms we didn’t do upkeep on, when it’s my turn, I hope I’m introspective enough to help instead of externalize & blame.

greyhairedgeekgirl

This.

The bleak outlook for traditions is a direct result of the unmaintained foundations for them. The second best time is always now - if it’s important enough to op-ed about, what are you willing to change to get it back? What will you give up or re-prioritize?

I follow a Facebook group of “Memories of …” for my hometown - a rustbelt community that has gone from a thriving hub of industry to a much-less-thriving place.

The group is a collective lament.   Decades-old pictures of well-kept churches.  Aerial shots of the main intersection downtown, lined with big cars.    Scanned advertisemetns from local stores featuring pictures of their interiors.   These alternate with the drumbeat of news:  the Catholic diocese is closing churches.  Selling them.   Tearing them down.   STores downtown are closing.   The traffic light has been replaced with a four-way-stop.

“That’s the church my parents were married in!”
“How could they tear down that beautiful building.  Such memories!”
“All the businesses are closing.  It must be the taxes.”
”They’ve sold the old lodge downtown.”
“They’re not opening the skating rink this year.  We always used to go.”

And sometimes I chime in. 

“Do you attend that church?  Do you give? Or do you just want the building to look pretty for you? “
“Do you volunteer at that park?  Why not?”
“Did you vote for that recreation bond issue?”
“Are you a member of that Lodge? Why not?”
“Do you shop downtown?   Or did you start shopping at Walmart and Amazon to save a few bucks?”

If you feel something is worth preserving, why do you not participate in its preservation?  

Community is not a spectator sport. 

amarvelousplace-atempsideblog

Community is not a spectator sport

leebrontide

I want to add:

If you went to that church, did you make sure it welcomed the new generation and their values?

If you wanted your kids to inherit your china, did you make your home welcoming enough for them to use it long enough to build up a financially secure future?

If you want that park to exist, did you complain about older kids (teens) hanging out there as if they weren’t supposed be there?

If you want the next generation to maintain your traditions, did you WELCOME them into the spaces where those transitions live?

silvergryphonart

If you want your kids to want the big china set that can feed the whole extended family, did you teach them to look forward to big family events? Do they have nostalgia for that china set like you do? Does your family treat each other well enough for your kids to want to prioritise saving up for the space to host them?

If you want that historic building preserved, did you help make its history important? You know the stories those walls hold, but does anyone else, and could that have been leveraged into funding to restore it?

If you miss comfortable park benches, do you speak up about hostile architecture?

If you want public transport, do you use it?

cleowho

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“Homo sapiens.”

The Ark in Space - season 12 - 1975

gabajoofs

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Love how being a leech is passed down from generations huh

cuntmunism

there is no string of words funnier to me than "landlords whose parents fled communism" like yeah of course

raygirlramblings

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Luigi deliberately misidentifying animals to wind up Mario is peak sibling behavior.

Don’t ask what inspired me to produce this. I just loved the ‘why are you dressed like a BEAR?’ line from the movie so much XD.